Thursday, February 27, 2014

The Realist's Rant!

I am continually being accused by many of my friends of being a pessimist to which I take offense.  I am not a pessimist. Neither am I an optimist. 

I AM A REALIST!  

What's the difference? See that glass of water (pictured). The optimist says, "The glass is half full."  The pessimist says, "The glass is half empty." The realist says, "The glass contains half the required amount of liquid for it to overflow."  

If you require another example, let's take my now 32 day straight persistent headache, which I mentioned in a previous post. The optimist says, "I don't have brain tumors."  The pessimist says, "I have brain tumors."  The realist says, "Considering my recent medical issues, I may or may not have brain tumors." There's a significant difference between these three sentences. If you read carefully my Never-Ending Headache posting, I say specifically: "I am not saying that's what I have [brain tumors]. I'm saying that among other things, it could be brain metastases." That is the realistic stance on my headache. Do I know for sure what is going on with my headache? No, I am awaiting the test results.

As long as we are talking reality, here are my realities of three important facets of life: 
  1. Health: My cancer has a 15-20% 5-year survival rate, which means there's an 80-85% chance that I will be pushing up daisies before I'm 52.  That's statistics (facts).
  2. Love: I will most likely live out the remainder of my days alone, because I refuse to run the risk of letting my heart to be broken again. (Particularly as it's still shattered into a million little pieces.)  Choice.
  3. Career: Due to my abysmal 45% passing rate, there is a chance that I will be searching for a new position this summer. More statistics (facts).
While these statements might seem to be sad and negative, they are not. They are simply my reality. I admit that I will never be someone who sees the glass as half full. That's just not in my nature, but never accuse me of being a pessimist.
Ha! This made me laugh!



Saturday, February 22, 2014

The Overachiever Mentality...

What is it about some people (myself included) that makes them be an overachiever with everything? I know several people who fit into the slacker mentality (sadly, some of my students), but I know many more overachievers. What are the components of being an overachiever?

Overachievers will spend 50 hours to put together a 10 minute presentation for the PTA. They feel like they are losers if they have less than a 4.0 GPA. Generally, overachievers are the first to arrive at work and the last to leave and rarely take breaks or lunch.  Sound familiar? It does to me.

Today I realized that I might have a problem with being an overachiever. You see I was desperate to make sure that I didn't move a muscle for the 30 minutes as I was getting my MRI. After all I had to be the best of the best patients. I'm like that all the time. Anything I do, I have the need to make sure that I'm the best at what I'm doing. Failure is an option, but it's an option that I detest.

Apparently that's not exactly a healthy way to live, as there is a downside to being an overachiever. According to The Field Guide to the Overachiever by Psychology Today, "People driven to overachieve are motivated by an unhealthy compulsion to show they are worthy. 'Overachievers have an underlying fear of failure or a self-worth contingent upon competence,' says University of Rochester psychologist Andrew Elliot. 'Rather than setting and striving for goals based on a pure desire to achieve, their underlying motivation impels them out into the world to avoid failure.'" We are perfectionists in an imperfect world. <gasp>

How do you avoid the pitfalls of being an overachiever? Here are a few things I've learned over the years:
  1. Say "no" occasionally. Do you find yourself constantly saying "yes" to every request and find yourself overbooked. Just say "no".
  2. Stop criticizing yourself. Accept that you're not perfect and that things are out of your control.
  3. Prioritize! Stop trying to do it all at once.
  4. Run your own race! Don’t get caught up in comparing your successes to your siblings, friends, co-workers, etc.
  5. Take vacations. Making sure that you take the time to relax and rejuvenate is important.
This advice is definitely in the "physician heal thyself" category as I struggle with each of these issues on a daily basis. I actually had to force myself to take time to read for pleasure this past week. Otherwise, I would have spent the entire week reading essays, lesson planning, and doing grad work. Of course, I had to do some of that this week, but I also managed to read about 5 books just for fun. But now I'm struggling not to feel guilty because I didn't complete the work that I had to do. <sigh> It's a vicious circle.

Where do you fit in on the achievement scale? Take the "Are You an Overachiever or Underachiever" Quiz. It's not hard to figure out which category I fell into.

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

The Never-Ending Headache! A Cancer Update...

I didn't think I would be posting a cancer update this soon as it is not quite 3 months since my last update, but...

On Monday, January 27, I woke up with a headache and it has been with me ever since! I fall asleep and it's there. I wake up and it's there. It's like carrying a permanent piece of luggage around. At first, I didn't think much of it. While it is not a debilitating headache, it is annoying to have this constant pain. On a pain scale of 1-10, it's usually around a 4. It's a tension-type headache - meaning that it creates a band of pain around my head.

I thought perhaps that it was a sinus infection, but the symptoms are all wrong for sinusitis.  Then after a day or two, I thought it might be a water enhancer I was using, which was sweetened with sucralose. Side effects of sucralose for some people are headaches. I cut that out of my diet and still the headache remained. After day 11, I started getting concerned, mostly because the headache is not the only problem that I have been having. Adding to the painful head are dizzy/vertigo spells, phonophobia, neck pain, and mild depression. Joy! All of which are side effects to brain tumors. Now, I am not saying that's what I have. I'm saying that among other things, it could be brain metastases.

The three places that endometrial cancer most often spreads to are liver, lung, and brain. As we know, my cancer has already spread to my lungs, but my brain had never been scanned. Naturally, I start thinking the worst. After a couple of days of playing telephone tag with my oncologist, I finally just made an appointment to see her. Today, I met with her and she decided that it would be wise to schedule an MRI to rule out brain mets. Unfortunately, the hospital was unable to get me an appointment for a brain scan until Saturday. I will have a further update after the scan.

Until then, think happy thoughts and hope that it's not the worst case scenario.

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Are You a Psychopath?

According to Oxford psychologist Kevin Dutton, author of The Wisdom of Psychopaths: What Saints, Spies, and Serial Killers Can Teach Us About Success, lawyers, CEOs, and media personalities top the list for professions chosen by psychopaths. Conversely, care aides, nurses, and therapists are the least psychopathic professions. Check out the list below for the top 10 for each category:

The word "psychopath" generally conjures up thoughts of Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer, or fictional character Hannibal Lecter, but actually, as Dutton explores in his book, being psychopathic doesn’t necessarily make you a serial killer. “A psychopath is someone with a distinct cluster of personality traits, including narcissism, persuasiveness and a lack of conscience,” he says. Perhaps unsurprisingly these traits can often be found in successful business figures. A 2011 study suggested one in 25 CEOs make it to the top because of their inherent ‘psychopathic’ traits, such as an ability to manipulate any situation. Having supported enough CEOs and attorneys in my 25 years in the business world, I can concur that these traits fit many of them to a T, particularly the CEOs.

“Psychopathy lies on a spectrum,” adds Dutton. “Some of us may score higher on some traits than on others.” But accordingly, unless you score high on all of them (and are naturally inclined to be violent), you’re not likely to find yourself the subject of Quentin Tarantino's next movie.

The natural question that comes up when viewing this list is: Why these specific professions? The obvious answer is that for the most part the careers on the left offer up much more of a feeling of power than the ones on the right do. In addition, while some of the jobs on the left certainly provide the potential for human connections, the jobs in the right-hand column stress empathy on a day-to-day basis. Indeed, a requirement for being a good nurse or therapist is the capacity to empathize with one's fellow human beings. Of course, there are outliers with everything, like serial killing nurses and compassionate caring CEOs (i.e., Australia's Ken Grenda, CEO and Owner of Grenda Corp.).

It's interesting that surgeons are considered psychopaths and doctors are not. Maybe it's the whole "I'm a god when doing surgery" thought process that makes the difference. Also strangely, chefs are on the psychopath list. So perhaps anyone who wields a knife has the capacity to be a psychopath. What's that say about my favorite television chef, Gordon Ramsay, or my brother who has been a chef for 30+ years? Hmmmm...

If you're wondering where you fit on the list, you can take Dutton's Psychopath Challenge on his website. Thankfully I scored low on the psychopath scale -- a mere 12 out of 33. I guess I'm safe... or rather others are safe from me.

Monday, February 17, 2014

"Stitches" and "Maus" Are Memorable!

As a matter of course, I don't read graphic novels. There isn't any real reason behind why I don't. I just never "got into" them. But between yesterday and today, I have read two different memoir graphic novels. The first is Stitches: A Memoir by David Small, which is an assigned book for the class that I co-teach and I figured I should read it as my students are just finishing it up. The second is Maus: A Survivor's Tale by Art Spiegelman, which I had heard about while visiting the campus of Phillips Academy in Andover. One of the great things about graphic novels is the ease of reading. Stitches took me all of an hour to read and Maus just slight longer - around 5 hours. As I mentioned yesterday, a memoir needs to have three components: it must be well written, keep the reader's interest throughout, and the author has to have a clear purpose. How do Stitches and Maus measure up?

Stitches: A Memoir

Summary: David Small, a best-selling and highly regarded children's book illustrator, comes forward with this unflinching graphic memoir. Remarkable and intensely dramatic, Stitches tells the story of a fourteen-year-old boy who awakes one day from a supposedly harmless operation to discover that he has been transformed into a virtual mute—a vocal cord removed, his throat slashed and stitched together like a bloody boot. From horror to hope, Small proceeds to graphically portray an almost unbelievable descent into adolescent hell and the difficult road to physical, emotional, and artistic recovery.

Review: David Small is an award winning children's author/illustrator, but I have never read any of his books. In some ways, not knowing the author's previous work makes this graphic novel even more enjoyable. I will start by saying that both the story and the art are excellent! The story revolves around David Small from the age of 6 to adulthood. He comes from an interesting but dysfunctional family -- his mother and her side of the family are explored in depth. David develops a growth on his neck, which turns out to be cancer. However, his family choose not tell him this fact, which is just one of the many sources of conflict between him and his parents. I love how the story is told. The struggles David goes through growing up within this family are real and relatable. David (the character in the book) can be extraordinarily imaginative, which is shown throughout the story (i.e., his admiration for Alice in Wonderland, which appears again towards the end of the story). In the end, the story has a great moral lesson -- your voice is more than the words that come out of your mouth. It is also your actions, what you do and how you do them, that speak for you. That is a great message to learn from a book about a child growing up.

The art is black, white, and gray, and in this story, it works perfectly. Some of the best frames in the book are when the author uses a direct light source on his character. For example, when David is in an elevator, and the doors open and close, he creates a fantastic effect by using this lighting technique. It happens a few times in the story, and it is definitely worth stopping to study the frame and look at the detail.

Finally, I believe that this story could only be told in this way. It just would not have been as effective if it had bee told in a traditional book. You need the art, combined with the story, David's vivid imagination, and the writer's control of his limited words to feel the full impact of the story. Telling the story of his memories works very nicely as a graphic novel. Yes, it did take me only about an hour to read the book, but I think that was too fast, and I plan to go back and read it again - taking more time to study each frame. I highly recommend this book for its great story and artwork, even if you know nothing about the author. By the time you are done reading, you will feel like you know him personally. Stitches is three for three in my memoir requirements.

Rating: 5 out of 5 stars

Maus: A Survivor's Tale

Summary: "The Pulitzer Prize-winning Maus tells the story of Vladek Spiegelman, a Jewish survivor of Hitler's Europe, and his son, a cartoonist coming to terms with his father's story. Vladek's harrowing narrative is woven into the author's account of his anguished relationship with is aging father." (from the back cover)

Review: Art Spiegelman's Maus: A Survivor's Tale is a unique and unforgettable work of literature and has been described as memoir, biography, history, fiction, autobiography, or a mix of genres. It is a two-volume set of book-length graphic novels, which tells the story of the narrator, Artie, and his father Vladek, a Holocaust survivor. Maus (trans: mouse) is an important example of both Holocaust literature and the graphic novel. The two volumes of Maus are subtitled "My Father Bleeds History" and "And Here My Troubles Began"; they should be read together to get the biggest impact.

Artie is a comic book artist who is trying to create art that is meaningful, not just commercial. As the two volumes unfold, he gradually learns the full story of his father's history as a Jewish survivor of the Holocaust. There is a complex "book within the book" motif, since the main character is actually writing the book that is being read. Is the story accurate? Probably not, but as with all Holocaust literature, it is not about accuracy but the humanity or inhumanity of the story. It is almost certain that the elderly Vladek forgot, exaggerated, or hid details, just as it is certain that his son summarized and misunderstood the account.

The distinguishing premise of the book involves depicting the books' human characters as having animal heads. All the Jews have mice heads, the Germans are cats, the non-Jewish Poles pigs, the Americans dogs, etc. It is a visually provocative device, although not without problematic aspects. To his credit, Spiegelman addresses some of the ambiguities of this visual device in the course of the 2 volumes. For example, there is an extensive discussion between Artie and his wife, a Frenchwoman who converted to Judaism, regarding what kind of animal head she should have in the comic (rabbit, frog, mouse?).

The art is black and white and contains some stunning visual touches, as well as some truly painful and thought-provoking dialogue. Vladek is one of the most extraordinary characters in 20th century literature. As grim as the two books' subject matter is, there are some moments of humor and warmth.

What makes Spiegelman's work so moving is the juxtaposition of a supposedly lighthearted form, the comic strip, with the greatest evil and suffering in human history, the Holocaust. Spiegelman's parents miraculously survived the concentration camps, being among very few survivors, getting by on luck and (in the case of Vladek) a lot of resourcefulness. This is their story, from the point of view of the father, who lost nearly all of his relatives. With the Jews as mice and the Nazis as cats, this work pulls no punches in describing the true horrors of the Holocaust, and Spiegelman's minimalist artwork makes the images all the more disturbing. You don't get this kind of emotion, terror, and brutal honesty in standard written accounts of the period. But underneath the direct suffering of the Holocaust, the true theme of this book is the lasting effects on the Spiegelman family, including the father's lasting agony and the mental illness shared by both the author's mother and himself. The strained relationship between father and son are the true heart of this tremendous work. Overall, Maus is a profound reflection on family ties, history, memory, and the role of the artist in society. I highly recommend this book. Maus is also a three for three in my memoir requirements, even though this is not strictly a memoir.

Rating: 5 out of 5 stars

Sunday, February 16, 2014

It's Boring "Following Atticus"...

I have mixed feelings about memoirs. Some memoirs are brilliant and should be read by everyone; others - readers should just pass by. What constitutes a good memoir? For me, it must be well written, keep the reader's interest throughout the story, and have a clear purpose for writing the story. This month, my book club's selected book is a sports/adventure/dog-loving memoir, Following Atticus: Forty-eight High Peaks, One Little Dog, and an Extraordinary Friendship by Tom Ryan. I'm not certain what prompted the suggestion to read this book by a member of the club, but I'm sure she had her reasoning. 

Synopsis: "After a close friend died of cancer, middle-aged, overweight, acrophobic newspaperman Tom Ryan decided to pay tribute to her in a most unorthodox manner. Ryan and his friend, miniature schnauzer Atticus M. Finch, would attempt to climb all forty-eight of New Hampshire's four thousand-foot peaks twice in one winter while raising money for charity. It was an adventure of a lifetime, leading them across hundreds of miles and deep into an enchanting but dangerous winter wonderland. At the heart of the amazing journey was the extraordinary relationship they shared, one that blurred the line between man and dog.

Following Atticus is an unforgettable true saga of adventure, friendship, and the unlikeliest of family, as one remarkable animal opens the eyes and heart of a tough-as-nails newspaperman to the world's beauty and its possibilities." (from the dust jacket)

Review: I really wanted to like this book but sadly, I did not. Of my three requirements for what consistutes a good memoir, this book had none of them. At first, I found the story interesting. But the moments that I found most interesting were the ones that Ryan wrote about the least. The early chapters of the book deal with his life as an underground muck-raking newspaperman here in the small town of Newburyport, MA (where I live). He writes about all the incestuous weirdness that goes on in small towns. I didn't actually know anything about any of this, therefore, I found it interesting and refreshing. 

After that initial thrill, the book goes sharply downhill. When he gets into his mountain hiking jag, Ryan quickly becomes repetitious. He's hiking the same 48 mountains over and over and over and over again. How many different ways can the scenic view from the top of a mountain be described? How many times do we want to hear about the therapeutic value of solitary wilderness? How cold it was or how difficult the climb? I don't see what the big deal is hiking up and down the same small mountains year after year. The book is very self-indulgent. The author comes across as nice guy, but also extremely lonely. His only close companion is a little miniature schnauzer which Ryan drags up one mountain peak after another, and he makes up multiple charity quests as a reason to keep hiking the same mountains.  All I kept thinking is "why do I care about any of this?" The answer was simple: "I don't care."

The worst part is that so many chapters were identical. Cliff hanger to start, cold/snowy/tired, awesome views, and then a very anticlimactic end. It's just not very strong writing and completely lacking any real plot. This story would have made a great magazine article, but not a book. Therefore, if you intend to read the book, I suggest you stop at page 64 and don't waste your time on the last 200 pages.

It should be noted that I (apparently) am in the minority about this book. Most reviews on Amazon are glowing, which I don't comprehend but to each their own.

Rating: 2 out of 5 stars
Atticus is a really cute dog, though.

Saturday, February 15, 2014

Don't Waste Your Money on These Items!

As I was putting on my gloves today to head out to run a couple of quick errands, I noticed that my very expensive Barbour lambswool gloves which cost me $50 had a small hole. ARGH! That's when I started to realize that I foolishly spend way too much money for certain products which ends up being unnecessary expenses. There are three very specific products no one should spend a lot of money when purchasing: gloves, sunglasses, and umbrellas.
 
Why? I have found that these three items are the items which are easily lost, easily broken, or easily stolen. In 1986, I spent $80 on sunglasses only to have those glasses go missing two weeks later (cost today: $160). A few years ago, I spent $60 on an umbrella which just snapped in a bad rainstorm a couple of months after purchase. Another $40 umbrella went missing from a NYC restaurant (stolen). Let's not mention the recently purchased and torn $50 lambswool gloves.

Conversely, when I've spent very little money on items ($10 sunglasses from a NYC street vendor, $15 drugstore umbrellas, and $8 Target gloves), those items have lasted me years. On the rare occasion that one of those cheaper items goes missing or breaks, I don't care nearly as much because I haven't wasted a ton of money on them. The more expensive gloves don't keep my fingers any warmer than their cheaper counterpart. As long as the umbrellas keeps the rain off, do I need a fancy one? As long as my eyes are shielded with UV protection, then sunglasses are sunglasses.

So folks, save your money.  Buy cheap on these three items!

Friday, February 14, 2014

What Kinds of Children are we Raising?

I am not a parent, so take my observations and commentary as someone who has no real vested interest in a specific child, but in children as a whole. Something occurred in my classroom yesterday and it has been sticking my craw ever since.  Here's the scenario:

One of my students (whom I'll call Jane) asked to go to the bathroom, which I gave her permission to do so. About 10 minutes later, a student who is not one of my students, but is one of our more notorious students, comes barging into my classroom and heads straight to the desk where Jane was sitting. I explained to this incredibly rude student that her barging into my classroom was unacceptable and that she needed to leave. To which she replies, "Just wait, Miss, I need to get something."  I again repeated that she has no business being in my classroom and needed to leave. She blatantly ignored me and proceeded to gather up all of Jane's items (backpack, jacket, etc.) and leaves my room. As she is leaving my room, I explained that she was never to do that again and that I would be writing her up. Her reply: "Alright, miss - Shut up!"  I followed her out and asked if I had heard her correctly, to which she replied, "yeah, shut up!" I then proceeded to lecture my class about this student's incredibly rude behavior and the consequences of this type of behavior when they are out in the world. I then had to write up both girls - one for her rude behavior and the other for being AWOL.

When I mentioned this confrontation to the assistant principal, he sort of chortled and said "That's [student's name] being [student's name]." Yes, he laughed about it, but did tell me to write it up and that he will "talk" to her. <sigh> The behavior that many of the students in my school display and the lack of consequences for their behavior saddens me. Following up yesterday's incident, today I had two separate run ins with each student and so the battle of wills begins.

As I mentioned, the extremely impertinent student is notorious. Last year, this child spent most of her time in school cutting class and wandering the halls. Therefore, to "fix" this behavior, administration made a deal with the student that if she attends certain core classes, she can "work" in the office helping the school secretary with odd jobs during her other classes. What the...? What? How is that remotely helping this girl?

So it comes back to my question: What kinds of children are we raising? When we allow children exhibit bad behavior and fail to set up certain boundaries and consequences for their actions, we end up with a bunch of entitled, obnoxious brats who feel that they can do whatever they want -- or at least, this is the case where I work. I'm hoping this is not a worldwide pandemic.

I'm not saying that children should not have independent thoughts and that they need to be little robots at all times.  That would be awful, but when independence crosses over into insolence, that's when we have problems. What is going to happen to these children when they have to go out into the world and be productive adults? They are going to have a very unpleasant awakening!

Rant over.  I feel better having gotten that off my chest.

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

It's Okay to be Smart!

I keep hearing that "smart is the new sexy".  If that were the case, I'd be on the cover of Vogue magazine. But so far, Anna Wintour has not been knocking my door. As I'm partially terrified that I'm going to end up like my mother - with Alzheimers, I like to keep learning new things, which I hear will keep the dementia at bay. 

To that end, I've been on a science kick of late. Yesterday, a posting from PBS hit my newsfeed on Facebook. It was a link to a PBS Digital Videos YouTube site, called It's Okay to be Smart. The specific video link was about The Science of Kissing, which explains the science behind why we feel need to smooch. It's a really fascinating video.

It's Okay to be Smart is "is a blog and a YouTube show about science. But it’s probably not about science the way you’re used to it" (from the blog site). It's the brainchild of Joe Hanson, Ph.D. biologist and host/writer of PBS Digital Studios.

After watching that first video about the Science of Kissing, I set out to watch as much of the entire series that I could. The videos are not only informative and interesting, but Dr. Hanson is amusing. Some of my favorite videos are How Science Defines a Year, The Science of Snowflakes, and The Odds of Finding Life and Love.

I decided to post the video that I found to be the most fascinating. It's called Amazing Animal Superpowers and Dr. Hanson shows how art really does imitate life. If you have ever wondered where comic book writers get their ideas for their superheroes, perhaps it's from watching the animal kingdom and some of the weird and wonderful things that they can do. Check it out - engage your brain!

Monday, February 10, 2014

Puppies!!!

I just had to post this commercial because I got such a feeling of joy when I watched it.

I think every television ad should feature cute little puppies. I love McVitie's Original Digestives and this commercial makes me hope that the next time I buy them there's a puppy inside. I'm going to be disappointed if there isn't one. After all, there should be truth in advertisting.

Warning: Cute puppy overload!
February 15, 2014 Update: Today, I bought a package of Digestives and there were no puppies in the pack and I was disappointed.  <sniff>  Can I sue McVitie's for false advertisement?

Sunday, February 9, 2014

"Ladies and Gentlemen, The Beatles!"

At 8:00 pm on February 9, 1964, four lads from Liverpool wearing "tight, dandified Edwardian-Beatnik suits and great pudding bowls of hair" (from a scathing review in Newsweek) made their first live US performance on The Ed Sullivan Show in New York City. They were, of course, the Beatles. A then record setting 73 million people tuned in that evening to watch this unprecedented event, making it one of the seminal moments in television history. And the world has not been the same since!

On that first appearance, the Beatles performed five songs in two sets: set one: "All My Loving", "Till There Was You", and "She Loves You"; set two: "I Saw Her Standing There" and "I Want to Hold Your Hand". They performed among a shrieking audience of fans and so began Beatlemania in the United States. Well, technically Beatlemania started in early December 1963 when a Washington DC area disc jockey, Carroll James, started playing a bootleg copy of "I Want to Hold Your Hand" - far in advance of the mid-January 1964 scheduled release date - and America's youth fell in love with the Fab Four. Upon landing at John F. Kennedy Airport on February 7, 1964, the Beatles were greeted by an estimated 3,000 screaming fans. So started the "British Invasion". After the boys' February 9 appearance, the Beatles went on to perform on The Ed Sullivan Show on the next two consecutive Sundays; although, technically their February 23 appearance was recorded before the February 9 appearance. The Beatles would appear one more time on The Ed Sullivan Show in September 1965.

Tonight at 8:00 pm, CBS will be airing The Night That Changed America, which is "a celebration of the Beatles' 50th anniversary appearance on The Ed Sullivan Show [and] includes performances from Paul McCartney and Ringo Starr. Other performers: Katy Perry, Alicia Keys, John Legend, Maroon 5, Imagine Dragons, John Mayer, and Keith Urban." Who the heck are the Imagine Dragons? Anyway, this event promises to be an amazing night. Of course, as it goes right up against the Olympics in primetime, I'll be DVR-ing the celebration to enjoy at a later time. Sorry, lads!

In honor of the 50th anniversary:  "Ladies and Gentlemen, The Beatles!"

Here is a portion of the Beatles second appearance a week later (February 16) on The Ed Sullivan Show, from the Deauville Hotel in Miami Beach, which includes one of my favorites, "This Boy":

And finally, the Beatles third appearance on February 23, 1964 with yet another favorite of mine "Twist and Shout" (yeah, okay, I have lots of favorites):





Saturday, February 8, 2014

Should People Boycott Watching the 2014 Sochi Olympics?

Has there ever been any Olympics that has not had some sort of controversy surrounding it? From 2008 Beijing Games and China's human rights policies to the Tonya Harding/Nancy Kerrigan debacle, take a look at the lengthy list of scandals and controversies connected to the Olympics and you'll see that nearly every Olympic game has been surrounded by controversy and the 2014 Winter Olympics is no different.

The other day, a friend posted a question on Facebook, asking if people were boycotting the watching of the Olympics, due to Russia's stance on homosexuality.  The answers he received were on both side of the issue. Some people saying "yes" - equating the issue to Nazi Germany (which didn't make sense as the US did not boycott the 1936 Olympics - remember Jesse Owens?), while others saying "no" for a multitude of reasons. This question got me thinking about whether people should or should not boycott the Sochi Olympics.  

Let's start with why the Olympics were created. The Olympics were created in order for varying countries to get together every four years, put their differences aside, learn about other cultures, and to engage in friendly competition. The Olympic Charter reads: "The goal of Olympism is to place sport at the service of the harmonious development of humankind, with a view to promoting a peaceful society concerned with the preservation of human dignity." Listen to any Olympian and they will all say the same thing: politics are put aside and it's about friendly (and occasionally not so friendly) competition. There have been countless stories of athletes who develop friendships and even romance with athletes from other countries while at the Olympic games. 

Therefore, should we allow a group of neanderthals who make up Russia's body politic to ruin this spectacular event because of their antiquated and hateful rhetoric about homosexuality and gay rights? Perhaps they should be reminded of what else the Olympic charter has to say on the subject: "The practice of sport is a human right. Every individual must have the possibility of practicing sport, without discrimination of any kind and in the Olympic spirit, which requires mutual understanding with a spirit of friendship, solidarity and fair play". Thank you, Google. (In case you missed the Google Doodle from yesterday, take a look at the rainbow Google Doodle which supports the athletes in Sochi.)

For Olympics fans like myself, the idea of not watching the Olympics is horrifying. I'm not saying I couldn't do it, but that being said, should we? Where does it get us by not viewing the Olympics? Does it send a message about Russia's intolerance? Maybe, but will that change Russia's stance on homosexuality? Probably not. Truly, the only ones who are hurt by Americans not watching the Olympics are: the American broadcaster for the games (NBC), the sponsors (like Coca-Cola, Visa, and McDonald's), and the IOC. Putin and his cronies don't care if we tune in to watch snowboarding on our flatscreens. Plus there is the added issue that there are fellow Americans in Sochi who have worked for years, decades even, to get to the Olympics; some of whom I am sure are gays and lesbians. By not watching their efforts and supporting them while in Sochi, what does that say about us as Americans? If you truly want to show your distaste toward Russia's discrimination policies, don't purchase or use any Russian products - which pretty much amounts to not buying or consuming Stolichnaya Vodka and caviar. I can certainly do that!

I submit that while I wholeheartedly disagree with and condemn the position of Russia's politicians on gays and lesbians, we should not boycott the watching of the games. Not just because I'm the biggest Olympics nerd and watch the coverage obsessively, but because the Olympics are a soaring tribute to the nobility of the human spirit.

So, if you'll excuse me, I've got some television to watch!
Snowboarder and Olympian Shaun White

Best Blogs of 2013!

Every year, Time Magazine lists the 25 best blogs of the year. In December 2012, I happened to stumble over their list for 2012 and then posted what I thought were the best of the best blogs of 2012. Today, I searched for Time's list of the best blogs of 2013 and found some new and fascinating sites. As Time says, "pundits have been knowingly declaring that blogging is dead, rendered irrelevant by alternative means of personal publishing such as Facebook and Twitter," but judging by Time's list, blogging is anything but dead. Whew! That makes me happy because not only do I enjoy writing a blog, I really like reading other blogs. 

Out of Time's list of 25, I narrowed it down to my favorite 4:
  1. Beer Labels in Motion: This blog features a bevy of craft beer recommendations by blogger Trevor Carmick, but he adds a little more excitement to the recommendations by creating animated gifs of the beer labels. It's very fun and clever. This is a must read for any beer aficionado but even a teetotaler can find enjoyment in his site. One of my favorite gifs features two owls toasting each other. Of course, two pigs belly slapping is pretty amazing too.
  2. Elemental: Perhaps a blog about poisons isn't usual, but this slightly macabre blog is fascinating.  Pulitzer-Prize winning science writer Deborah Blum writes mostly about poisons and the poisoners in a witty and engaging way. She recently posited that perhaps Yasser Arafat was poisoned and list of the dumbest poisoners.
  3. What My Daughter Wore: Brooklyn artist, Jenny Williams takes a different approach than the usual fashion blogs. She playful sketches "the sartorial choices of my daughter, her brothers, and their friends." Ms. Williams has been posting sketches since 2011, therefore the sketches go deeper than just about her daughter's sense of fashion. As Time noted: "...the colorful drawings also tap into the depth of feelings - whether they are mischievous, charmed or tortured - that come with the onset of teenage years." 
  4. World War II Today: There are so many people who have an interest in World War II, but one blogger (Martin Cherrett) took his fascination to a whole new level with his blog. This blog is a daily accounting of what happened during the war - 70 years later. He's been "following" the war for 5 years (since 2008) and should have enough material to cover a couple of more years before he runs out of material.  If you are interested in delving deep into World War II, this site is a  must read.
There are 21 more blogs on the list which run through a variety of subjects from boxing to tech advice to the minutiae of movies and television. Therefore, there's a little something for everyone.
What My Daughter
Wore

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Music Doesn't Lie - Part 28 (Say Something)

"Music doesn't lie. If there is something to be changed in this world,
then it can only happen through music.
" – Jimi Hendrix

It's been well over a year since I discovered a new (at least to me) musician/group that I could feature in my Music Doesn't Lie series, but today, while hanging out on the couch watching great big gobs of white crap fall from the sky, I came across A Great Big World. Formed in 2002 by singers/songwriters Ian Axel and Chad Vaccarino, A Great Big World is an American musical group from New York. This group has been featured on shows that I don't watch (i.e., Glee, One Tree Hill, The Amazing Race, etc.), which is why I had never heard of them before today.  A friend posted on Facebook the lyrics to "Say Something" and I liked the lyrics enough to check out the song. Bam! I found a new group that I adore.

Yes, this group is in the pop/rock genre, which is one of my favorite genres. If you're not into pop/rock, this album probably won't speak to you. But I just loved every song on their debut album Is There Anyone Out There?, which was released on January 21, 2014. I am looking forward to hearing more from this talented duo.

Picking my favorite song from this album is very difficult. There are just so many great songs. There's  "Everyone Is Gay" which made me laugh out loud when I first heard it. "Rockstar" and "Land of Opportunity" have a great beat and wonderful lyrics. "Land of Opportunity" is particularly interesting with moving lyrics about the sadness of a lost love which contradicts the pop sound of the music. "Already Home", "Say Something", and "I Don't Wanna Love Somebody Else" are beautiful ballads and have already been added to my catharsis playlist (which has been severely updated in the past week). For me, 13 songs and 13 hits on a debut album is pretty significant! 

Which to feature??? Tough one, but I'm going to go with "Say Something" (lyrics), which eked out "I Don't Wanna Love Somebody Else" (lyrics) by an extremely narrow margin.  There are two versions of "Say Something" - one with just the band and one that has the addition of Christina Aguilera. I am not a Christina Aguilera fan at all, but the addition of her harmonies to the original song just makes it that much more special. (It should be noted that I find it hard to watch Christina in the video (below) because she does some weird things with her body, but the song is to die for.)

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

20 Interesting Science Facts!

I have said it before: I'm a HUGE nerd. I love science and all the weirdness that goes with it. I came across some really strange and fascinating science facts that I just find amazing.  Enjoy!
  1. There are 62,000 miles of blood vessels in the human body – laid end to end they would circle the earth 2.5 times.
  2. At over 2000 kilometers long, The Great Barrier Reef is the largest living structure on Earth.
  3. The risk of being struck by a falling meteorite for a human is one occurrence every 9,300 years.
  4. A thimbleful of a neutron star would weigh over 100 million tons.
  5. A typical hurricane produces the energy equivalent of 8,000 one megaton bombs.
  6. Blood sucking hookworms inhabit 700 million people worldwide.  [Eeeeuuuuwwww!!]
  7. The highest speed ever achieved on a bicycle is 166.94 mph by Fred Rompelberg, in 1995.
  8. If you eat a polar bear liver, you will die. Humans can't handle that much vitamin A.
  9. The male giraffe will continuously headbutt the female in the bladder until she urinates. The male then tastes the pee and that helps it determine whether the female is ovulating. If she is, it's nookie time.
  10. The combined length of the roots of a Finnish pine tree is over 30 miles.
  11. The oceans contain enough salt to cover all the continents to a depth of nearly 500 feet.
  12. The interstellar gas cloud Sagittarius B contains a billion, billion, billion liters of alcohol. [That would be one hell of  a party place.]
  13. Polar Bears can run at 25 miles an hour and jump over 6 feet in the air.
  14. 60-65 million years ago dolphins and humans shared a common ancestor.
  15. Polar Bears are nearly undetectable by infrared cameras, due to their transparent fur.
  16. The average person accidentally eats 430 bugs each year of their life.  [Protein!]
  17. A single rye plant can spread up to 400 miles of roots underground.
  18. The temperature on the surface of Mercury exceeds 430 degrees C during the day, and, at night, plummets to minus 180 degrees centigrade.
  19. It would take 1,200,000 mosquitoes, each sucking once, to completely drain the average human of blood.
  20. Honey does not spoil.  You could feasibly eat 3000 year old honey.  [But would you want to?]
Science is cool!

Sunday, February 2, 2014

The Year of the Horse!

The 15-day celebration of Chinese new year started this past Friday (on the first new moon of the calendar year). Friday marked the end of the year of the water snake and welcomes the start of the year of the wooden horse. To bring you luck this new year, I've listed eight (a lucky number in China) things you possibly didn't know about the Chinese zodiac and the year ahead.
  1. The Chinese zodiac – or Shēngxiào – is a calendar system originating in the Han dynasty (206-220BC), which names each of the years in its 12-year cycle after an animal: the rat, ox, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, goat, monkey, rooster, dog and pig, in that order. According to the system, the universe is made up of five elements – earth, water, fire, wood and metal – which interact with the 12 animals, resulting in the specific character of the year ahead.
  2. People born in the year of the horse (1918, 1930, 1942, 1954, 1966, 1978, 1990, 2002, 2014) are said to be a bit like horses: animated, active and energetic – they love being in a crowd. They are quick to learn independence – foals can walk minutes after birth – and they have a straightforward and positive attitude towards life. They are known for their communication skills and are exceedingly witty.
  3. If none of this rings true, don't worry. The animal signs of each year merely indicate how others see you or how you choose to present yourself. There are also animal signs for each month, known as inner animals, signs for each day, called true animals, and animals for each hour, or secret animals.
  4. If you were born in the year of the horse, you should be looking for potential partners who were born in the years of the tiger, goat or dog. Avoid those born in the year of the rat, ox, rabbit or horse. [I don't quite buy into this advice. Some of my best friends have been people that I'm "incompatible" with in the Chinese zodiac.]
  5. According to superstition, in your zodiac year you will offend Tai Sui, the god of age, and will experience bad luck for the whole year. To avoid this you should wear something red, which has been given to you by someone else. In general, the lucky colors of team horse are are green, red and purple; the lucky numbers are three, four and nine, and the lucky flowers are giant taro and jasmine.
  6. Raymond Lo, a feng shui and destiny consultant, says the year of the horse is a year in which people are likely to stand firm on their principles and values. "So it is hard to negotiate or compromise as there are more tendencies for people to fight for their ideals," says Lo.
  7. When it comes to love life, the year of the wooden horse is not quite lucky. Marriages are not ideal this year; so those who are engaged would want to postpone their weddings to the next year, according to Paul Ng, a professional feng shui master.
  8. Years of the wooden horse are associated with warfare. The battle of Dien Bien Phu, which ended with the defeat of France by the Vietnamese, happened in 1954 and 1894 saw the start of the first Sino-Japanese war. "With such serious conflicts on historical record in the previous two yang wood horse years, I cannot rule out the possibility of war and fierce battle in 2014," predicts Lo.
Mǎ nián dàjí!  [Translation: Best wishes for the Year of the Horse]

P.S. Did I mention that I was born in the year of the horse?  As I have nothing red that was given to me by a friend, I am left unprotected from Tai Sui's vengeance.  I'm am screwed!

Saturday, February 1, 2014

Lists, Lists, and More Lists!

Are you a "lists" person??  Goodness knows I am. If I don't make a list of what I need to do or buy or need or want, I am sure to forget something. Therefore, I am constantly making lists - all sorts - probably too many. In fact, I need to make a list of all of my lists.

In June 2012, I discovered the blog, Letters of Note, a website that collects correspondence that they find fascinating. I'm so enamored of this blog that I've written about it three different times (A Passion for Correspondence, "To My Old Master", and Quite Possibly, The Best Response Letter...Ever!). I was checking out the latest postings today and instead saw their announcement of a sister website, Lists of Note. The Lists of Notes website is about ... well, lists. Be still my beating heart! The blogger writes: "Lists are created for all manner of reasons, and have been for many centuries. It's my aim to feature some of the most notable examples right here."

In perusing through the notable lists, I came across several interesting lists. For example, a memo by David Ogilvy, founder of the advertising company of Ogilvy and Mather, entitled "How to Write" - great advice! A to-do list written by Johnny Cash, which includes the reminder to 'pee'. Really? You need that reminder? How about William Safire's contradictory rules of writing "Fumblerules of Grammar" - HILARIOUS!!! I'd print Safire's list to give to my students, but I don't think they'd get the humor.

One of my favorite lists was written by the late, great Nora Ephron, who passed away in June 2012, after a 6 year battle with leukemia. Ms. Eprhon was one talented playwright, screenwriter, novelist, producer, and director- being the genius behind some of my favorite movies; movies like Silkwood, When Harry Met Sally..., Sleepless in Seattle, and You've Got Mail - just to name a few. Lists of Note posted the list she wrote of the things that she'll miss and not miss, which I've reprinted below:

What I Won't Miss

Dry skin
Bad dinners like the one we went to last night
E-mail
Technology in general
My closet
Washing my hair
Bras
Funerals
Illness everywhere
Polls that show that 32 percent of the American people believe in creationism
Polls
Fox TV
The collapse of the dollar
Bar mitzvahs
Mammograms
Dead flowers
The sound of the vacuum cleaner
Bills
E-mail. I know I already said it, but I want to emphasize it.
Small print
Panels on Women in Film
Taking off makeup every night

What I Will Miss


My kids
Nick
Spring
Fall
Waffles
The concept of waffles
Bacon
A walk in the park
The idea of a walk in the park
The park
Shakespeare in the Park
The bed
Reading in bed
Fireworks
Laughs
The view out the window
Twinkle lights
Butter
Dinner at home just the two of us
Dinner with friends
Dinner with friends in cities where none of us lives
Paris
Next year in Istanbul
Pride and Prejudice
The Christmas tree
Thanksgiving dinner
One for the table
The dogwood
Taking a bath
Coming over the bridge to Manhattan
Pie

Looking at Ms. Ephron's list, I think that she and I would have gotten on quite well. I love this list so much that I have decided that I'm going to start composing my own list of what I will and won't miss about this life. Check out Lists of Note. It's a really interesting website.
RIP, Nora. You are missed!